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Developing Your Onward & Upward Attitude – Part 3

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3. Deal with bad news when it comes in.
I talked about this a little bit on Wednesday.

When rejections come, and — unfortunately — they will, you have to deal with them when you get them.

Don’t wallow in it. Don’t have an extended pity party. The rejections alone have the capability to reduce your self-confidence. Indulging in a pity party will erode it even more and make it that much harder to send anything else out or maybe even write again.

You have to move onward and upward. You have to get past the rejection. Set yourself a time limit for your pity party. For articles, I give myself a couple hours. For a book, a day. Most of the time, it doesn’t last through the day.

I’ve heard of people who keep copies of all of their rejections. Some people have joked about using them as wallpaper for their office.

WHY?????????

Why would you surround yourself with all that negativity? From personal experience, negativity begets negativity. You have to stay positive. Surround yourself by positive things.

Norman Mailer wrote a book called The Power of Positive Thinking. You don’t have to know exactly what the book says to be able to engage in positivity yourself.

I’m not saying you should never keep any rejections. I have a really good one from The Wild Rose Press. I believed then — and still do now — that it was one step below an acceptance because the editor suggested changes and said if I made them, she would like to see it again.

I can’t wave a magic wand or tell you to take a vitamin that will raise your self-confidence as far as your writing life is concerned. I can, though, say that if you follow these three tips on as consistent a basis as you possibly can, it will help erase some of those doubts.

I know.

I’ve done it. It’s hard at first, but keep with it.

Onward & upward!

Part 1
Part 2

 

Developing Your Onward & Upward Attitude – Part 2

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mailbox2. Wait a while before sending work out.
It never fails. We have a draft of an article or story finished. We think it’s finished and we send it out.

A couple weeks or so go by. We get an envelope in the mail or a message in our inbox. Our breath catches or our stomach clenches in anticipation. Instead of the hoped-for acceptance, we find a rejection. And that’s IF they respond. Our self-confidence takes a hit.

What can we do about it?

Stop.

Really, just stop. Take a breath. Step away from the mailbox or computer. Do not send it!

We’re sending things out too soon. Either they aren’t ready to see the world yet or WE aren’t ready for them to go out yet. If they’re not reqdy, we generally know it by the quick turn-around when the rejection hits our mailbox. If WE aren’t ready, we know it by our reaction when we get the rejection.

Sometimes even when we get an acceptance.

There is a lot about writing that requires a certain mindset. Submitting manuscripts is one of them. How do you know if you’re ready? Only by sending your work out for consideration.

When you (think you) finish a story, let it sit. If at all possible, let it sit for a week or more. Then go back and read it again. Is it ready to go out? Is it as perfect as you can possibly make it? If it is, take a look at yourself. Are YOU ready to send it? Can you handle it if it comes back rejected?

How long do you wallow over a rejection? That depends on how big a hit your self-confidence takes. The time it takes for you to move from disappointed to “Onward and Upward” is the best indicator if you are ready.

How long should you wallow? In my opinion, you shouldn’t. Set yourself a time limit, though. I only allow myself a day at the most to wallow/throw a pity party. Then it’s time to move on.

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Look for Part 3 on Friday

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August 10, 2011 at 11:25 am

Writing Class at ECU in Ada, Oklahoma

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I haven’t publicized this much as yet, but I will be teaching a writing class through ECU’s Continuing Education/Public Service Program in Ada.

If you, or anyone you know, would be interested in taking this class, please call the number I’ll give you in a minute and sign up. As of right now, there is one person enrolled. I am willing to do the class for two or three people, but I can’t do it for just one.

Here’s the blurb as it appears in the ECU catalog:

If you have an interest in writing and selling your work, this class is for you. In this class you will learn how to find a market for writing articles or essays that you have a passion and expertise in. Instructor Jennifer Nipps is an award winning, multi-published freelance writer and has training in teaching adults.

Make Money Writing: 0209-PQ34
10/20-11/17 (5) TU 7:00-9:00 $60 310 FE

You can call 580-559-5456 to enroll.

If you would like a little more info on what will be covered in the class, feel free to e-mail me. I’ll be glad to answer any questions.

Feel free to forward this to anyone in the Ada area — or anyone willing to travel to Ada one night a week for five weeks — you think might be interested.

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September 27, 2009 at 9:37 pm

Some Good News

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After “Kiernan’s Curse” was rejected last week, a couple days later, I sent it to another publisher.

Today I got an e-mail with “Re:” my subject info.

My first reaction? “Uh-oh.”

Have you ever tried to click on an e-mail subject, cover your eyes, and read the e-mail?

It doesn’t work.

But since it was good news, it didn’t matter.  🙂

They requested the first 50 pages!

And believe-you-me, they have already been sent.

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July 15, 2008 at 3:35 pm

Rejection Hurts

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You get a two-fer today.

Not too long ago, I sent “KIernan’s Curse” out to a publisher.

Tonight, I got the rejection in my inbox.

This one stings more than most of them do.  I really really want Kiernan to find a good home.  One that will also accept Devon and Benen and whoever else comes next.  *s*

Onward & upward…but not tonight.

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July 8, 2008 at 6:30 pm

Easily Amused

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A couple days ago, I mentioned in another post that I got a rejection from Realms of Fantasy. I also mentioned it to a few writing friends.

The majority of them said, “Don’t give up.”

I have no intention of giving up.  It’s one of my dream markets and I will have a piece in there eventually.  (Speaking of, I need to print the next one that I want to send and get it out to the mailbox before the mail runs.)

I must be easily amused because I wanted to laugh when people kept saying “Don’t give up.”

After I get that in the mail, I need to work on some queries, an article, and a book proposal.  Perhaps I shouldn’t have typed that all out.  It looks daunting, especially when I also take into consideration that I want to work some more on my current fiction WIP.

What are you easily amused by? What is it that people tell you that makes you want to laugh out loud, literally?

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July 1, 2008 at 10:19 am

Fiddlesticks!

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Around mid-May, I sent a story to Realms of Fantasy magazine. 

Today, I went to the mailbox and saw a 9×12 envelop.  That didn’t look very promising.  Admittedly, it could have been something completely unrelated to writing.

It wasn’t.

It held my short story and a rejection letter.  It wasn’t completely unexpected. 

I’ve heard ROF is a tough market to crack.  Eventually, I will succeed, though.  I already have another story (almost) ready to send them.

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June 28, 2008 at 8:07 pm