Jen Nipps, Writer

Developing Your Onward & Upward Attitude – Part 3

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3. Deal with bad news when it comes in.
I talked about this a little bit on Wednesday.

When rejections come, and — unfortunately — they will, you have to deal with them when you get them.

Don’t wallow in it. Don’t have an extended pity party. The rejections alone have the capability to reduce your self-confidence. Indulging in a pity party will erode it even more and make it that much harder to send anything else out or maybe even write again.

You have to move onward and upward. You have to get past the rejection. Set yourself a time limit for your pity party. For articles, I give myself a couple hours. For a book, a day. Most of the time, it doesn’t last through the day.

I’ve heard of people who keep copies of all of their rejections. Some people have joked about using them as wallpaper for their office.

WHY?????????

Why would you surround yourself with all that negativity? From personal experience, negativity begets negativity. You have to stay positive. Surround yourself by positive things.

Norman Mailer wrote a book called The Power of Positive Thinking. You don’t have to know exactly what the book says to be able to engage in positivity yourself.

I’m not saying you should never keep any rejections. I have a really good one from The Wild Rose Press. I believed then — and still do now — that it was one step below an acceptance because the editor suggested changes and said if I made them, she would like to see it again.

I can’t wave a magic wand or tell you to take a vitamin that will raise your self-confidence as far as your writing life is concerned. I can, though, say that if you follow these three tips on as consistent a basis as you possibly can, it will help erase some of those doubts.

I know.

I’ve done it. It’s hard at first, but keep with it.

Onward & upward!

Part 1
Part 2

 

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