Jen Nipps, Writer

Developing Your Onward & Upward Attitude – Part 1

with 3 comments

(Note: After the last blog series, I took an informal survey on what topics writers would like to see here. “Conquering those self-confidence demonswas suggested by Winona Cross. For other suggestions, feel free to leave them in the comments sections or email me.)

Writers have an internal Public Enemy #1 when it comes to building the kind of self-confidence needed to withstand the roller-coaster ride that is involved with writing, submitting, and publishing. PE#1 is none other than our own internal critic.

How do we combat what our critic throws at us? We can fake it ’til we make it, wait a while before sending work out, and deal with bad news as it comes in.

1. Fake It ‘Til You Make It
It sounds trite. If you’re not confident, you can’t act like you are, right?

Wrong.

Sometimes you have to borrow self-confidence you have in other areas of your life and apply it to your writing life.

A friend of mine, Nita Beshear, gives talks to different quilting groups and sells her book, Devoted to Quilting, as she goes. She says when she started, she wasn’t very confident about public speaking. But she did it. Her confidence has increased as she has done more presentations.

For a more personal example, I’m currently working on a book about Twitter. Whenever I start to work on it, I’m bombarded by doubts.

I don’t know what I’m talking about.
Will someone really buy a book about Twitter?
There are other good books out there about Twitter.
I don’t know how to do this.
I don’t know what I’m doing!

I keep going. I know there are other things I have done and can do that have given me the confidence to keep me going.

In what areas are you not as confident as you would like to be? In what areas are you as confident as you want to be? Borrow some of that confidence to let you fake it ’til you make it in other areas.

It sounds hokey, but it’s doable.

You’ll get another tip/technique on Wednesday.

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Written by Jen Nipps

August 8, 2011 at 11:55 am

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  1. Thanks, Jen! Fake it ’til you make it. I’m going to give it a try. You know, years ago before I got hurt I was super confident about the things I did in nursing. Not so much in my personal life. I taught classes, wrote and presented inservices, wore every hat a nurse can wear, etc. When I was hurt and couldn’t work as a nurse anymore every bit of that confidence flew away. I started writing in a journal then discovered an online writers university–Writers Village University. Then, some writing attempts. Then, I found a writing group. That’s more than 10 years ago and lack of confidence has kept me trussed up like a turkey. I know I can write and I know I have some talent. It needs work but it’s there. So, Jen, thanks again. I think you’re blooming like a rose. Looking forward to more posts and at going back and studying your other works.

    Winona Cross

    August 8, 2011 at 3:38 pm


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